{Bookworm Review} Q & A with Mari Ruti on “The Case for Falling in Love”

In a world where today’s relationship industry is generally annoying and oozing with commercialized fads, amongst other sets of nonsense,The Case for Falling in Love by Mari Ruti, PhD  is refreshing, insightful and not overly simplified.

Image by Sasha H. Muradali. All Rights Reserved 2009.

Yes, it’s self-help, but of the tolerable and conventional kind.

After all, Ruti was educated at Brown, Harvard and the University of Paris, where after finishing her doctorate at Harvard, she spent four years as the assistant director of the university’s program for the Study of Women, Gender and Sexuality.

But don’t let her academic background deter you, her easy to read book, makes you feel like she’s talk to you and not at you.

According to Ruti, some destructive thoughts are that:

  • …men and women are hopelessly different.
  • …in order to attract a man, women must hide their strength, feelings and desires.
  • …the only way to catch and keep a man is to manipulate him into new ways of thinking.

She says that these ideas have not only been proven wrong by reality (and history), they’ve proven to be destructive to women’s emotional makeup and psyche.

In The Case for Falling in Love, Ruti urges women to ignore the noise, and redefine how they look for love; what they look for in love, and why they are looking. [Read more...]

I refuse to settle for anything less than Mr. Darcy

A Mr. Darcy personifed

I refuse to settle for anything less than Mr. Darcy
(aka – you men need to step up your game. I’m not asking for the world, only that you act like you belong in the one of which I inhabit.)

In response to a recent article on Review Romance, a not-so-subtle ‘boy’ claims that women, the world over, for the past 200 years, are ‘nuts’ because we love Fitzwilliam Darcy, the hero from Jane Austen’s Pride & Prejudice.

“It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a woman in possession of a good fortune, must be in want of husband!”

A mini-essay of sorts, because I feel you are in dire need of an education, sir.

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