In a world where today’s relationship industry is generally annoying and oozing with commercialized fads, amongst other sets of nonsense,The Case for Falling in Love by Mari Ruti, PhD  is refreshing, insightful and not overly simplified.

Yes, it’s self-help, but of the tolerable and conventional kind.

After all, Ruti was educated at Brown, Harvard and the University of Paris, where after finishing her doctorate at Harvard, she spent four years as the assistant director of the university’s program for the Study of Women, Gender and Sexuality.

But don’t let her academic background deter you, her easy to read book, makes you feel like she’s talk to you and not at you.

According to Ruti, some destructive thoughts are that:

• …men and women are hopelessly different.
• …in order to attract a man, women must hide their strength, feelings and desires.
• …the only way to catch and keep a man is to manipulate him into new ways of thinking.

She says that these ideas have not only been proven wrong by reality (and history), they’ve proven to be destructive to women’s emotional makeup and psyche.

In The Case for Falling in Love, Ruti urges women to ignore the noise, and redefine how they look for love; what they look for in love, and why they are looking. [Read more...]