Inhale Courage, Exhale Fear II: Happiness, Heart and the Soul

“We are each responsible for our own life – no other person is or can ever be.”

– Oprah Winfrey

Sometimes we make things harder than they are, a life thrust forward into the twisted changing of the wind, under an immaculate sun, as I have come to call it.

In life, a lesson should be learned for each action we react to. Small or large, lessons learned teach us and facilitate in our growth. Without growth we cannot progress, we cannot move onward — most of all, we cannot achieve the completion of a fulfilled self.

Call it a rite of passage, the lessons of life, part of the eternal rising of the sun — call it what you wish, but embrace it because:-

“In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life – it goes on.”

– Robert Frost

When it comes to our blind spots maybe our brains aren’t compensating, they are protecting us until we are ready to see what is truly there. It’s a self-defense mechanism, a inexplicable sense of knowing without seeing  until we are ready. For as the saying goes, people are not given anything they cannot handle.

We are built to experience.

“The future depends on what we do in the present.” Mahatma Gandhi was right; he changed a nation, after all.

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Emotions can wash us away if we aren’t careful; they can melt our defenses and make us imagine that we’re crazy, at a loss for all rational reason and foolishly silly.

But that’s what the ability to feel is for: to bring us down to our senses, round off our hard edge and give us the strength to continue to try.

I still think its true, and on some level, the alchemist was right,

“My heart is afraid that it will have to suffer, the boy told the alchemist one night as they looked up at the moonless sky.

 Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams.”

The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

The best decisions are often the hardest, the ones we don’t want to make but we have to – we know we do. Those that care about us will agree, they will tell us often what we wish not to hear, but must.

The thing is, we know they are right.

Self-preservation, self-denial – the entirety of the ‘self,’ – we know they are right.

After all, why wouldn’t they be?

“Beautiful things in life don’t always stay…more often than not, they don’t, but that doesn’t mean you avoid them.”

– Jennifer Ortiz

When Eric Fulwiler talked about branding he said something universally applicable,

“The more we want something, the more power it has over us. The more we want someone’s affection, the more we will do for it. It’s a fickle loophole in the human psyche that we all experience, but tend to ignore. And we ignore it for good reason; it doesn’t make sense. It’s not rational that we would consistently contribute to the deterioration of our own control. But we do.”

The human spirit is a hard thing to break and resilience is a beautiful thing.  Make no mistake that the ride is worth the fall, even if it doesn’t seem that way at first.

One should regret nothing for it only adds to our final completion — a true sense of ‘self.’

You never know when it will happen to how it will happen, but,

perhaps it is like Humphrey Bogart said in Casablanca, “…maybe not today. Maybe not tomorrow, but soon and for the rest of your life” … when the time is right of course.

Think about it this way,

Life is either a daring adventure or nothing. To keep our faces toward change and behave like free spirits in the presence of fate is strength unbeatable.

– Helen Keller

  • Remember the beautiful things.
  • People are in relationships of all kinds to be happy, if you aren’t happy, then why are you there?

  • Forgiven, not forgotten.
  • And ask yourself, does it matter? Think about why you feel the way you do, and change it. Only you can do that.

So take a gulp, inhale courage, exhale fear…


Read, “Inhale Courage, Exhale Fear…” part I here.

Sasha Muradali runs the Little Pink Book. She holds a B.S. in Public Relations from the University of Florida with a minor in Dance (’07) and an M.A. in International Administration from the University of Miami (’08). She loves Twitter and all things social media, so you should find her @SashaHalima or get a copy of the Little Pink Book delivered to your Kindle.

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Comments

  1. Another amazing post – great work, Sasha! 🙂

  2. Sasha – this is soul-stirring commentary. Your insight is both compassionate and insightful. I hope that by writing this down (and sharing it with us) is helping you through what appears to be a difficult time.

    Thank you for putting into words, what many of us need to hear.

  3. Sasha – this is soul-stirring commentary. Your insight is both compassionate and insightful. I hope that by writing this down (and sharing it with us) is helping you through what appears to be a difficult time.

    Thank you for putting into words, what many of us need to hear.