On December 23, 1776 Thomas Paine said,
“THESE are the times that try men’s souls.”
It was the heart of the American Revolutionary War and, as Bob Dylan might have said, these times, they were a-changin’.
Life throws us curve balls every once in awhile and it is how we deal with them, how our faith in the world is tested, how we react — that truly defines us.
It’s not often what we say, as a people, but what we do…rather.
Thinking in absolutes is never good. Extremes in anything, of any sort, are unhealthy and if one keeps waiting for fear to subside, you’ll keep waiting.
“My heart is afraid that it will have to suffer,” the boy told the alchemist one night as they looked up at the moonless sky.
“Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams.”
In November of 2009′s Risks & Fears: Tough Leadership in Tough Times, Sir Richard Branson talked about thinking of the solution as opposed to thinking of the problem in business.
He always encourages people to look at the over-arching pictures, rather than the small details.
But it goes deeper than that — the lessons of the professional life can be applied to personal and vice-versa.
After all, risks – fears – the whole thing — in life there will always be heartache, there will always be pain, there will always suffering, there will always be that difficult situation that one must overcome and when it’s finished — the person shall breathe again.
“You’re going to come across people in your life who will say all the right words, at all the right times. But in the end, it’s always their actions you should judge them by. It’s actions, not words, that matter.”
- Nicholas Sparks
There is good within the bad, and it takes the bad for one to appreciate the good. We cannot get blinded by emotion, but we also cannot forgo emotion all together.
In fact, it’s what makes us human, it’s what makes us the species that we are on this planet. Doing otherwise is unnatural.
When life throws you salt and some limes, I’ve always subscribed to making a sparkling margarita.
I saw a quote that said,
“Sometimes fate, if you believe in it, brings two people together to learn important life lessons, but not necessarily to be happy together for the rest of their lives.”
Today’s September 29, 2010 and I get to see Miranda Lambert perform tonight. So I’ll leave you with ‘Heart Like Mine,‘
“‘Cause I heard Jesus, He drank wine
And I bet we’d get along just fine
He could calm a storm and heal the blind
And I bet He’d understand a heart like mine”
Sir Branson said, you have to fail to be successful — a step further,
- you have to hurt, to love
- you have let go of the cold, to feel compassion
- you have to let the ego wither, to take on the humility
- you must come to terms with the suffering, to achieve tranquility
- and most of all, you have to inhale the courage, to exhale the fear…
As for the hurt, that one feels so deeply and truly, the breaking of thy heart in any form — of all forms — I think it will come to past because that is what having faith is all about.
“The period of greatest gain in knowledge & experience is the most difficult period in ones life.”
- Dalai Lama
…that is just my $0.02, anyway.
Read part II, “Inhale Courage, Exhale Fear II: Happiness, Heart & Soul,” here.
…for you, LGB
UPDATE, October 8, 2010
Thanks to Mike Schaffer for re-tweeting my post on Twitter and for alerting me to the fact that this post inspired, Tricia Cesarino’s Lessons Learned, her first blog post, about having the courage to run a marathon.
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