Inhale Courage, Exhale Fear…

On December 23, 1776 Thomas Paine said,

“THESE are the times that try men’s souls.”

It was the heart of the American Revolutionary War and, as Bob Dylan might have said, these times, they were a-changin’.

Life throws us curve balls every once in awhile and it is how we deal with them, how our faith in the world is tested, how we react — that truly defines us.

It’s not often what we say, as a people, but what we do…rather.

Thinking in absolutes is never good. Extremes in anything, of any sort, are unhealthy and if one keeps waiting for fear to subside, you’ll keep waiting.

“My heart is afraid that it will have to suffer,” the boy told the alchemist one night as they looked up at the moonless sky.

“Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams.”

The Alchemist

In November of 2009’s Risks & Fears: Tough Leadership in Tough Times, Sir Richard Branson talked about thinking of the solution as opposed to thinking ofΒ  the problem in business.

He always encourages people to look at the over-arching pictures, rather than the small details.

But it goes deeper than that — the lessons of the professional life can be applied to personal and vice-versa.

After all, risks – fears – the whole thing — in life there will always be heartache, there will always be pain, there will always suffering, there will always be that difficult situation that one must overcome and when it’s finished — the person shall breathe again.

“You’re going to come across people in your life who will say all the right words, at all the right times. But in the end, it’s always their actions you should judge them by. It’s actions, not words, that matter.”

– Nicholas Sparks

There is good within the bad, and it takes the bad for one to appreciate the good. We cannot get blinded by emotion, but we also cannot forgo emotion all together.

In fact, it’s what makes us human, it’s what makes us the species that we are on this planet. Doing otherwise is unnatural.

When life throws you salt and some limes, I’ve always subscribed to making a sparkling margarita.

I saw a quote that said,

“Sometimes fate, if you believe in it, brings two people together to learn important life lessons, but not necessarily to be happy together for the rest of their lives.”

Today’s September 29, 2010 and I get to see Miranda Lambert perform tonight. So I’ll leave you with ‘Heart Like Mine,

“‘Cause I heard Jesus, He drank wine
And I bet we’d get along just fine
He could calm a storm and heal the blind
And I bet He’d understand a heart like mine”

Sir Branson said, you have to fail to be successful — a step further,

  • you have to hurt, to love
  • you have let go of the cold, to feel compassion
  • you have to let the ego wither, to take on the humility
  • you must come to terms with the suffering, to achieve tranquility
  • and most of all, you have to inhale the courage, to exhale the fear…

As for the hurt, that one feels so deeply and truly, the breaking of thy heart in any form — of all forms — I think it will come to past because that is what having faith is all about.

“The period of greatest gain in knowledge & experience is the most difficult period in ones life.”

– Dalai Lama

…that is just my $0.02, anyway.

Read part II, “Inhale Courage, Exhale Fear II: Happiness, Heart & Soul,” here.

…for you, LGB
S
xx.

~*~

UPDATE, October 8, 2010
Thanks to Mike Schaffer for re-tweeting my post on Twitter and for alerting me to the fact that this post inspired, Tricia Cesarino’s Lessons Learned, her first blog post, about having the courage to run a marathon.

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Sasha H. Muradali owns the Little Pink Blog (part of Little Pink Book PR, LLC.) Sasha holds a MA International Administration with a concentration in Intercultural Communication from the University of Miami and a BS Public Relations and Dance from the University of Florida. She has been featured in Forbes, CNN and Business Week. Sasha tweets fervidly (@SashaHalima), loves Harry Potter and the colour pink. Find her on LinkedIn, get a copy of the Little Pink Blog delivered to your Kindle and ‘LIKE’ us on Facebook.

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Comments

  1. I just want to tell you that you are fantastic. Your blog posts are so educational and really well done. πŸ™‚

    This post in particular touches on what I'm going through right now, personally, which is dealing with a whole lot of fear!!! Good timing. πŸ™‚

  2. Hi Sheila,

    Thank you for your kind comment, I truly appreciate it and I'm very happy

    that it helped out. Maybe it's something in the water these days — but

    definitely this one hits exceptionally close for me too.

    Best of luck with what you're going through, breathing helps πŸ™‚

    Sasha x

  3. This post is beyond commentary- you never cease to amaze me with the depth of your perception of even the most simple things. But alas, this post made you human, makes us see the Sasha beyond the sparkle, beyond the magic, beyond the fashion- and that is the best trend/detail/recap that we could ever hope to encounter from you.

    Thank you for being irreplaceably Sasha.

  4. Aww, thank you Michelle πŸ™‚

    *muah* … and Happy Birthday!

    xx

  5. And choose your life's mate carefully. From this one decision will come ninety percent of all your happiness or misery.

  6. …a sad, but inherent truth.

  7. Marvelous thoughts. Great for my “Friday RT” … Thanks!

  8. Christa Marzan says:

    I'm glad my yoga instructor's mantra from Monday night, (“inhale courage, exhale fear”) is helping you through your difficult time. It's definitely been helping me at work, which is why I took on this mantra in the first place. The only thing you can do is keep breathing and take one day at a time! And a little yoga couldn't hurt either πŸ˜‰

  9. You are an amazing person (but I'm kind of biased = P). Your knack for understanding the human condition is remarkable. You take the hardships and blog insight. I really agree with the person on fb that asked if you have wings.

    This post shows humanity and will help many going through tough times (myself included). Your blog goes beyond trends, fashion, public relations.

    You really do sparkle Ms. Muradali.

  10. I told Sasha a long time ago about the benifits of Yoga. Please encourage her.

  11. …lol, yes, Dad.

    πŸ™‚

  12. I'm glad you like it, thank you for the RT and for reading πŸ™‚

  13. … thank you and you are absolutely right. πŸ™‚

  14. Thanks Ashley — I'm glad you like it.

    Wings? Hardly — but if and when I earn them, I'll be sure to let you know πŸ™‚ *muah*

    xx

  15. I'm glad you like it, thank you for the RT and for reading πŸ™‚

  16. … thank you and you are absolutely right. πŸ™‚

  17. Thanks Ashley — I'm glad you like it.

    Wings? Hardly — but if and when I earn them, I'll be sure to let you know πŸ™‚ *muah*

    xx

  18. Great timing and very well written.  You rock Sasha!

  19. I’m excited how well you are progressing as a writer, Sasha. I’ve spent well over 20 years writing and I know excellence when I see it. The transitions are perfect. That’s always a challenge. The art is beautiful. Rock on. God bless you and stay safe in Gotham City. πŸ˜‰