People want to be everyone but themselves.
Heidi Montag did it, so did Victoria Beckham, Demi Moore, Charice Pempengco, Tara Reid, Ashley Tisdale, Madonna and countless others.
It’s this inherent desire to be “perfect.”
Sheyla Hershey could tell anyone who would care to listen all about it. After all, she’s the current world-record holder for the globe’s largest breasts (no pun intended.)
A desire that could eventually kill her.
I’ve been mulling over this for awhile but didn’t want to beat a dead horse into the ground. Except on Saturday July 24, 2010 Kim Kardashian showed up on my Twitter feed, highlighting something that really gets under my skin.
A die-hard fan of hers named Brisa Johnson (who has since deleted her Twitter account) tweeted,
“I’m getting head 2 toe plastic surgery nxt week 2 look like @kimkardashian so my husband won’t leave me. He worships her”
Kardashian did the right thing, caught the tweet in her stream, out of the thousands I’m sure she gets, and not only retweeted, but responded with a big fat, “NO:”
NO RT @brisajohnson I’m getting head 2 toe plastic surgery nxt week 2 look like @kimkardashian so my husband won’t leave me. He worships her
Kardashian then followed her response with one that said,
Don’t change yourself for anybody but yourself…be happy with who u are! Someone will appreciate and adore u just as you are.
Well said and that’s exactly what is wrong with the world.
People just want to be “perfect.”
The idea of what is perfect is so skewed, so subjective and so downright ridiculous it disgusts me.
This obsession to be “ideal” has reached psychotic levels. 18-year old Charice Pempengco got botox done in order to look “fresh” before she was set to debut on the second season of Fox’s Glee.
I beg your pardon?
It’s times like this, I’m glad Kim Kardashian and her sister Khloe are in the limelight.
They are curvy, brunette and the anti-(Mattel-forgive-me)-Barbie.
I actually give Khloe Kardashian credit for telling the media, when they speculated if she was pregnant, no, “I’m just fat.”
Her sister Kourtney Kardashian could tell people a thing or two about it as well. When OK! Magazine put her on their cover right after she had her baby, they Photoshopped her three sizes smaller.
Post-birth baby weight is normal.
That’s the reason I love Christina Hendricks so much.
She’s real, beautiful and not a size 0.Â But the New York Times would have their public believe otherwise.
I don’t understand why women have to change themselves to be beautiful.
I don’t understand why skinny is pretty, blond-blue-eyed make for Aphrodites, white equates right or why Photoshopping peopleÂ makes them worthy of magazine covers is even acceptable.
It’s disgusting and obnoxious.
As long as society and the media keep perpetrating these unhealthy, unnecessary and harmful restrictions onto women, that if they don’t adhere to, won’t make them beautiful, is as long as we’re going to be in trouble.
Men who grow up around these ideals will think them right and expect women to live up to them.
Women who grow up around these idea will think they have to do them or they just aren’t good enough.
At 23-years old Heidi Montag is a prime example of this,
I was made fun of when I was younger, and so I had insecurities, especially after I moved to L.A. People said I had a “Jay Leno chin”; they’d circle it on blogs and say nasty things. It bothered me. And when I watched myself on The Hills, my ears would be sticking out likle Dumbo! I just wanted to feel more confident and look in the mirror and be like, “Whoa! That’s me!” I was an ugly duckling before…
…Asked why she would want to look like a Barbie doll, Montag replied: “I think I look like myself. I think I just look like a different, improved version of myself.”
What’s wrong with being oneself?
Nothing, in my mind.
I’m short, I have acne and my backside is disproportionate to the rest of my body.
Sure I complain because I can’t find jeans to fit me. But, rather than opt to go under the knife, I just purchase multiple pairs of GAP ultra-lowrise, stretch jeans in a size 4 and wear them for a decade until I need to find new jeans. Everything The Limited comes out with in a Drew size 4-short pair of pants in a style I need, I wait for it to go on sale and I’m in their store.
It’s that simple.
The clothes don’t make me.
I make the clothes.
I don’t wear the makeup, the clothes, the shoes for anyone … but me.
I want to feel pretty, I want to be a princess, I want to play dress up everyday without inherently changing who I am.
Britney Spears recognized it (or at least her management did) and released the un-Photoshopped images of her taken for the Summer 2010 Candies campaign.
Society, media, Hollywood and the fashion industry need to stop with this bull because it kills people and is a plague on our society.
It’s moments like this I wish Michelangelo and Sandro Botticelli were still around to tell the world that you don’t need to be skinny to be beautiful; you just need to be healthy.
Newsweek did this feature on Montag after her surgery and accompanied it with the video below:
It’s “unattainable beauty,” as Susie Orbach, the former therapist to Princess Diana, has put it: the idea that good looks and peak fitness are no longer a biological gift but a ceaseless pursuit.
A harsh truth on reality.
But can we fix it?
Calling Ken Cosgrove, manwhore and all, at least he likes them the way they are …
Sasha Muradali runs the Little Pink Book. She holds a B.S. in Public Relations from the University of Florida with a minor in Dance (â€™07) and an M.A. in International Administration from the University of Miami (â€™08). She loves Twitter and all things social media, so you should find her @SashaHalima or get a copy of the Little Pink Book delivered to your Kindle.