Yesterday, I came across this post on Mashable by Jennifer Van Grove called “Just Married: Groom Changes Facebook Relationship Status At Altar.” The article was about a groom who changed his relationship status on Facebook, during his wedding, before he kissed his bride.
In the comments area of the post, opinions seemed to differ. I had no idea some people were so passionate (or passionate and immature, depending on your take) about the subject.
Personally, I do not agree with doing this. Perhaps, it’s because I’m more traditionalÂ in that sense. But originally, I felt like it was disrespectful to the church, the priest, the bride and the wedding guests.
Now let’s get one thing straight, I do not dislike these people and I am not attacking them. I don’t know them. I’m simply saying I disagree with what went down. (The groom looks like a pretty cool guy, his Twitter page shows that’s he’s into Star Wars )
Quite a few people felt the need to respond to my comment. One person clarified that the wife (as you’ll see in the video) took the phone and updated her status as well. Another person clarified that the groom has said that the priest and him were the only two people ‘in’ on the stunt.
So that throws my argument out of the water, it can’t be disrespectful to people who obviously approve of it. Right?
One person in particular (@RobertBasil)felt the need to attack and insult me countless times, by responding to other ‘threads’ of people speaking to me.Â Even when I told him that I would agree to disagree, he prodded on and apparently doesn’t quite grasp the meaning of “pot calling the kettle black.” But that’s another story…
Also, you can see the groom’s tweet, here, if you want.
I think it’s completely fair that people have the right to go about their business and do what they want to do at their own weddings. Sarah Jessica Parker wore black. Would I do that? Most certainly not. But it’s her choice.
My main set of questions/concerns/thoughts are:-
But what about the church?
I was taught that churches and other places of worship are sacred spaces and thus I found the act disrespectful.
However, my opinion aside:-
- Should social media be allowed to play a role in how people interact in these places?
- Is this a big deal?
- Is tweeting and updating your relationship status from your own wedding appropriate? A sign of the times? A nod to the future of our culture and societal norms?
- Is it respectful or disrespectful?
- Abnormal or the new normal?
You can see the original video below:-
In case you’re curious about me, I stopped responding to the people on Mashable apparently out to crucify me. Instead, I wrote this post in good humor. It also makes me rather sad because it shows how some people are narrowed minded and ignorant. I can agree to disagree on a beliefs/traditions system; I don’t see what’s so hard about it.
Oh well, to each their own
Sasha Muradali runs the â€˜Little Pink Bookâ€™ . She holds a B.S. in Public Relations from the University of Florida (â€™07) and an M.A. in International Administration from the University of Miami(â€™08). She loves Twitter and all things social media, so you should find her @SashaHalima or get a copy of the â€˜Little Pink Bookâ€™ delivered to your Kindle.